To understand and treat cases of mothers who lose their children - known as the nameless, endless and immeasurable pain - emerges the need to return to Freudian fundamental concepts, from the beginning of his work. The objective of the present study was to shed light on the concepts of mourning and melancholia to understand a mother's suffering before the loss of her child. The film "Rabbit Hole", which tells the story of a couple who loses a child, was used as a method of analysis. Also, vignettes from interviews made with mothers who have lost their children were used in order to complement the article. The results revealed that the concept of narcissistic identification is essential for the understanding of the question posed. In the film, there is the assumption that the mother establishes identification with the aggressor, which makes the elaboration of mourning impossible. As a conclusion, it seems that the loss of a child opens a major narcissistic wound that sinks mothers into severe melancholy. Psychoanalysis can provide a place of suffering to mothers that have lost their children, but yet trying not to let them fall completely in the place of the victims, in order to "make a spin" from death towards life.
Grief; Melancholy; Psychoanalysis; Narcissistic identification